Make space before reacting.
A challenging idea can come with anger, relief, fear, or shame. Name the feeling and the claim separately. “This scares me” and “this is false” are different statements.
Try describing what happened, the meaning you gave it, and another possible explanation. Emotion regulation includes changing how we interpret a situation; the useful approach depends on the situation. Reframing should never require pretending harm is acceptable.
A one-minute attention practice
Choose a neutral object in the room, the feeling of your feet on the floor, or your natural breath. When attention wanders, notice that and gently return. Eyes open is fine. Nothing needs to happen.
Research notes: emotion regulation [1] · mindfulness benefits and limits [2]